To resist the pressure to be perfect...

They say, ‘the best is the enemy of the good.’

Ali Kurtulmus

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Photo by Yasin Yusuf on Unsplash

To laugh often and much; to win the respect of the intelligent people and the affection of children; to earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends; to appreciate beauty; ”to find the beauty” in others; to leave the world a bit better whether by a healthy child, a garden patch, or a redeemed social condition; to know that one life has breathed easier because you lived here. “This is to have succeeded.”
Ralph Waldo Emerson

They say, ‘the best is the enemy of the good.’ After a while, individuals who aim for the best in every job can fall into the trap of doing nothing or being chronic procrastinators. The motto is: leave today’s work for tomorrow!

In today’s world, many people aim for success in many areas without prioritizing among the goals. They feel obliged to be the best in career, parenting, wealth, and social relationships. This causes great fatigue, and there are individuals who may not cope with time and throw up the sponge because they are not successful at any job as they wish. These people are discouraged after a while and give up the struggle.

It is a crystal-clear fact that modern life brings success into the forefront far too much.

Those who fall behind in this race of success may develop a sense of shame, thinking that the problem is not with the system but with them. We assume that the individual who “disconnect”, “lose” is depressed. But perhaps in this cult of success and the race to appear has a malfunction itself. Only when we make a positive impression on other people, we feel that we exist.

I started to come across people on the street, in cafes, in restaurants, who act as if everyone is watching them, living ‘tumultuously’. People who live life like a show. Or does the excitement to appear on social media invade our real lives too? It seems that authentic sources of inner peace are losing credibility. Others’ views and comments stand out. If…

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Ali Kurtulmus

A realist writer. I’m writing for a better life. MSc in Data Analytics and Management. Store Merchandiser at LC Waikiki.